It is always difficult for me to start doing difficult work. I feel strong internal resistance, put it to the last, I delay the preparatory stage. At the same time, even if I do everything at the very last moment, it comes out brilliantly. Another question is at what price: sleepless nights, severe stress, great fatigue due to the need to make a “jerk”.

I would like to learn how to deceive my brain, harden some installation that will help to cope with this. Believe more that my work is affurked? A way to do every day a little bitor did not work. It seems: today I’m tired today, and tomorrow I will make up. Moreover, it is so scary and difficult! Tired! Please advise what to do.

Marina, good afternoon! That’s right, sometimes there are elephants in parts – effectively, but, apparently, not in your case.

To understand the reasons, let’s take a step back to your children’s experience. Perhaps you were trained to study well, clean the room, come strictly on time after a walk. You should have cope with everything. And no one said then: “Leave it, this is really a difficult task! You can not do it. You will succeed, but later, and we still love you “. And now you cannot support yourself in slowness, errors. As if there is no such right!

Do everything on time-like to fulfill the order, but you no longer want to obey, you want to live in your own way. And this is a kind of protest against the great parental figure, even if in adulthood he looks illogical.

Our brain begins to give a similar failure if it perceives tasks as violence. This is a logic error. And perhaps you take too much volume. Again, you need to ask yourself why.

I see that it is important for you to stop tyranny and force you. Give yourself rest and permission not to cope with something. Until you start doing something for yourself, you will not have the strength right here for mandatory life tasks.